Recently, I read an article from Ellen Britt titled The Ebook Tipping Point. Ellen mentioned that on January 27, 2011 Amazon announced that sales of Kindle ebooks overtook sales of paperback books.  This shocked me.  I was further shocked to read that Kindle ebooks had already overtaken hardcover books six months before that.

In 2005, when I was writing my first book, I looked into the ebook market.  I interviewed a number of people who had released ebooks and NONE them were making any money at it or having any real success giving them away either.  And so I decided to release my book as a hardcover.

Well… that was part of the reason.  The real reason I decided it needed to be a hardcover book was because of my ego.  I was wrapped up in my ego. I wanted my book to be a “real” book – not an ebook.  Because of the intensely personal nature of my story and my message, I had decided to self-publish my book rather than going through a traditional publisher.  I wanted to retain control over every aspect of the message.  But in 2005 there was a much finer line between self-publishing and “vanity press” publishing.  The last thing I wanted was for my book to be dismissed as a vanity-press project. Mine was going to be a “real” book and nothing says “real” like hardcover. So that’s what I did in 2005.

By the time 2008 rolled around, more books were self-published than published through traditional publishers.  The self-publishing tipping point had been reached. And now a similar tipping point has occurred with ebooks. The world has changed a lot since 2005.

I released the ebook version of What’s Your Expiry Date? back in January 2010. And now I’m considering what’s next.

I was planning to write a follow-up book.  But now my thinking has changed somewhat.  Now, I’m thinking that I will write multiple follow-up books and that each will be aimed at a specific audience (like this) and deal with a specific aspect of the follow-up conversation.  And I think they will be ebooks!

Stay tuned!!

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In 2003 I realized that this message needed to be shared with others, so I started my career as a professional motivational keynote speaker, and have had the privilege of sharing the Power of Mortality™ with thousands of people.

In 2005 I wrote my first book What’s Your Expiry Date? Embrace Mortality – Live With Vitality.

Then in 2009 I moved into what I thought of as “phase II” of my message – Choose The Life You Want.

My thought was that I’d spent long enough talking and writing about mortality and wanted to help people focus on what to do next – how to turn off the “autopilot” and start actively choosing the life they want.  I left this website alone and haven’t really done much with it at all.

But lately, I came to realize that the Power of Mortality™ will always be a critical component to what I do.  I also realized that there will always be people who need to hear the message the the Power of Mortality has to offer and that they need to hear it from me.

But most importantly, I realized that there is more work for me to do in the area of mortality.  I have more to say.

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In 2005 I wrote a book called What’s Your Expiry Date? Embrace Your Mortality – Live With Vitality.  In it, I introduced a concept I call The Power of Mortality™.  I have been speaking about this topic since 2003 and done many radio and television interviews, including an hour long interview with Dr. Oz on Oprah & Friends.  In 2009 I was featured in a documentary movie.  But first and foremost the accomplishment that means the most to me is the incredible feedback that I get from people who have been impacted by my message.

People have changed their attitudes.  People have changed their behaviors. People have changed their careers.  People have changed their relationships. People have changed their lives! What more can you ask than to be able to do life-changing work?

In December of 2008 I got a message from my friend Sherry.  We’ve never had the pleasure of meeting but have connected through Facebook.  She and her family are fans of my book.  They even have my Mortality Manifesto printed out and displayed on their fridge!  Here’s what Sherry had to say:

I don’t know how you and your family talk about death, dying, living (I know your kids are younger) but my 12 year old daughter just brought it up to me.  We were in the car and she just very quietly said, I love you Mom.  We say it a lot in our house so I didn’t make much of it.  Then also quietly she said, “i’m afraid to die”.  Of course, i turned off the radio and really listened (which is what i should have been doing anyway).  I’m not sure what brought it on but I think i remember having thoughts about mortality at about her age.
I really took it as an amazing opportunity to talk about mortality with her.  I mentioned your name and your message (along with a bit of my own thoughts) and she knew who you were because I talk about you a lot in our home.

My point is, we continued the conversation at home in bed in the dark (where all the best intimate conversations happen).  And we will continue the conversations as they come up.  I`m pleased to say that she understands about mortality as something that is inevitable.  And she has agreed to open her mind to facing it without fear.  She also knows that there is every reason to believe that she and her family will live long lives but that each day is a gift.

So… thanks! You gave some powerful parenting tools.

Within a few weeks I had created an outline of a book that would be aimed at children, to help them to understand the idea of mortality and to approach it from a place of power, rather than fear.

And then… my life got crazy so I shelved that project.

Now, I’m proud to say that it’s back in full swing!

My question to you is:

What age do kids start to ask questions about mortality?

I’d love to hear your insights and anecdotes on the topic.

(Hey, did we ever decide what we we’re calling that last decade? We had the 80′s, then the 90′s but what is the name for the decade we just finished? And what are we in now? The “teens”?)

Well, it’s a new year and the beginning of a new decade!  Why not take this opportunity to create a new life for yourself?

As I mentioned on December 1st, there are some big changes coming for me in 2010.

I have been writing and speaking about the Power of Mortality™ for six years now. As you are probably aware, my message is closely tied to my life story, and since life continues to grow and evolve, my message has evolved as well.

If the Power of Mortality™ was about waking people up to the importance of their lives, then my next step involves helping people get into action when it comes to creating their dream lives.

I am thrilled to invite you to join me at ChooseTheLifeYouWant.com as I discuss a three-step process to help people live the lives of their dreams. Lives of significance. Lives that are fearless, focused and free from regret.

Choose The Life You Want (CTLYW) simply builds on the discussion that was started with The Power of Mortality. Naturally, the concept of embracing your own mortality is one of the cornerstones of the CTLYW approach. If you haven’t already read and signed the Mortality Manifesto Pledge – do it now!

I am replacing my Mindful Moment newsletter and podcast with a weekly email newsletter called “Fearless, Focused Fridays“. The idea is to give yourself a few moments on Friday to reflect on your dreams and head into the weekend and following week with a renewed sense of purpose and clarity.

You can subscribe to receive Fearless, Focused Fridays, as well as CTLYW blog updates via email or RSS feed. And you can subscribe to get updates on other news such as the upcoming book, public workshops and weekend retreats.

As I begin this new chapter, I want to sincerely thank you for being part of my journey so far. I would be honored in you would continue with me as we both begin to choose (and live) the lives we want!

ENJOY NOW!

You can get a look at my heart at the same time as you are checking out my new website called Choose The Life You Want.  The site doesn’t “officially” launch until January 1, 2010, but you can have a sneek-peek right now!

Here’s the link!  While you’re over there, you might as well subscribe!  Then come back here and tell me what you think!

2009 has been a year of challenges for me.  Actually, the last two years have been challenging for me.  This is why I haven’t been very active in blogging or podcasting. To those of you who used to look forward to my regular messages – I’m sorry that I’ve been sporadic in my communications.   The good news is that I’ve learned a lot of lessons during these times.  Lessons about myself and lessons about life.  And beginning January 1st (just one month from today) I’m going to start sharing those lessons with you.

• If you found value in The Power of Mortality™, then I’m sure you’re going to love what’s next!
• If you enjoyed my first book “What’s Your Expiry Date?”, then I know you’re going to love my next book!

A new blog, a new website, a new podcast, a new book … all coming in the new year!

What’s next is the evolution of the message that started with The Power of Mortality™.  That evolution is the journey that I’ve been on for the past 24+ months.  And let me tell you… it’s quite a ride and the journey is just beginning!

I can’t wait to share it with you!  Are you up for it?

“I was stuck in this job, feeling like I was just on a treadmill of having to earn enough money so that I could afford to buy the house that was near enough to my job. It was just like this crazy cycle. On Sunday nights, me and my husband would be just grumpy and unhappy about having to go back to work. And I’d think, you know, we don’t have to do this. … I felt like I wasn’t being true to myself.”

Could that quote be from you?

It’s actually from a woman named Roz Savage who decided that she’d had enough of the “perfect life” – husband, corporate career, big house, little red sports car.  She decided to give it all up and row solo across the Atlantic.

While I don’t share her vision of rowing single-handedly across the Atlantic and Pacific oceans in a 23-foot carbon-hulled rowboat – I absolutely LOVE her resolve in deciding to choose the life she wanted.

And how did she come to this life-changing conclusion?  She wrote two obituaries for herself. (A woman after my own heart!)  The first obituary was based on a life that continued along the path of the “perfect life”.  The second was based on a life of following her dreams.

While I haven’t read her book yet – I encourage you to read this interview that Roz did with the Globe & Mail newspaper: “Goodbye husband and career, hello high seas”

This article came to my attention via a Twitter post from my friend Bill Star. Bill is the CEO of My Life List™ which is a fantastic, free online community dedicated to helping each of us to design a “life list” that really matters.

So,  back to my original question: “Could the quote at the top be from you?”  Do you feel like you aren’t being true to yourself? Here’s how to get started on choosing the life you want:

1. Download and sign my free Mortality Manifesto Pledge.

2. Like Roz, write your own obituaries. One for the life that continues with the status quo and one for the life you would love to be living.

3. Sign up with My Life List™ and start creating and designing your new life step by step. There’s a wonderful community there to support you so you won’t feel like you’re alone on the Atlantic. (Unless that’s what you want to do!  In that case – talk to Roz!)

4. Come back here and share what amazing things you’re up to!

CONNECTING

Roz Savage – Twitter: @rozsavage Blog: http://rozsavage.com/blog/

Bill Star – Twitter: @mylifelist Blog: http://mylifelistceo.blogspot.com/

And I need your help!

- Please pass this video on to family and friends!

- Post it on your Facebook or MySpace pages!

- Share it via your own blogs!

- Spread the news through Twitter!

- Vote for it on StumbleUpon, Digg, and any other social bookmarking utility!

Let’s see how many people we can get to Take The Pledge!

Thanks!

As you may know, I have recently made a choice to increase my fitness level and decrease my body mass and body fat percentage.    I am using all of my skills and expertise to ensure that this choice becomes a reality for me in a fast and efficient manner.

This week, (the first week of my program) I paid very close attention the self-talk that was coming up around my lifestyle choices.  I found that I was really embracing the exercise components of my plan, but I was having some difficulty around food choices.  I was eating well, but not consistently.  Towards the end of the week, I found myself making some “bad” choices when it came to snacks.  As I tuned in to the self-talk around these choices, here is what I heard:

“Yummm! I’m going to have some of this – just as a treat.”

“That’s a bad idea and it’s out of line with my goals.”

“Yeah, I only live once. Do I want to live a spartan lifestyle, or do I want to enjoy myself? I deserve this little treat.”

WOW!  Those are a lot of unconscious beliefs at work there!  Let’s take a look:

• First, you can see that my Power of Mortality™ mindset is working against me with the excuse that I deserve a treat because I only live once and I could die at any moment.  That’s an absolutely silly excuse now that I’m aware of it!
• Second, I am equating sticking to my plan as living a “spartan lifestyle”.  How likely am I to stick with something like that?
• Third, I am further equating this to a lack of enjoyment and self-deprivation. I’ve even gone so far as to make it an either/or situation – “spartan lifestyle” or “enjoy myself”.  Hmmmmm.. no wonder I’ve struggled with this in the past.

I recently wrote about the fact that nothing has any meaning except for the meaning we give it. I said: “Once we realize that we have complete control over the meanings we assign to things, we gain a tremendous amount of power.”  Here’s how I shifted my meaning in this situation.

I zeroed in on my phrase “Do I want to live a spartan lifestyle, or do I want to enjoy myself?”.  As I heard the words “spartan lifestyle” I was able to instantly shift the meaning. When I heard the word “spartan”, I thought of the movie “300” which was an incredibly violent and gory movie full of guys with fantastic abdominal muscles. (I choose to believe that these were computer generated abs courtesy of Pixar Studios!)

That one shift has made all the difference!  Now, when I hear my self-talk whining about not being able to eat something, and I hear “do I want to live a spartan lifestyle?” I think of those guys and their abs and I answer: “Hell yes,  I want to live a lifestyle like that!” (The great abs part of the lifestyle – not the death, violence and gore part.)

Then I visualize the negative and limiting self-talk as the messenger in the movie who is standing at the edge of the well and I kick him backwards into the abyss!

I imagine myself as the main character in the movie, standing there with rippling abs and armed with a celery stick, ready to take on thousands of invading chocolate bars or cookies! This a completely silly and ridiculous way of thinking and that’s precicely why it works for me. I find it fun and easy to do!

And more importantly, it breaks the pattern in my head about what my healthy choices mean (lack of enjoyment and self-depravation) and helps install new, supportive meanings and beliefs.

So this week, I encourage you to consciously tune in to your own self-talk and be on the lookout for limiting beliefs that might be working against your goals and objectives. If you need help… I’ll be over here eating celery and doing situps!

I just finished writing a blog entry called “Oprah’s Big Mistake“.  In the article, which revolves around Oprah Winfrey’s weight gain, I offered the following words of advice: “It’s all a choice.” (Please read the article before you unleash your pro-Oprah fury on me!)

And I truly believe that!  I believe that we need to choose the life we want to live. I believe that the path to the life you want comes from choices that you make moment to moment, day to day. And I believe that we have to start making those choices right now.

So I’ve decided to put this theory to the test!

Right now, I weigh more than I’d like to.  Since I’m a tall person with a big frame, I carry my weight well and I don’t really consider it an issue.  But deep down, I would like to be leaner and more fit.  If I’m really honest with myself, I will admit that if I were truly choosing the life I want, I wouldn’t choose to weigh this much.

So I’m going to put my skills to the test.

• I’m a Certified Master Coach and I empower people to achieve incredible results.
• I’m a powerful motivational speaker and author and I specialize in personal and corporate transformation.
• And most importantly, I know the power of taking responsibility for your own life and the power of making a choice to pilot your own life.

So… here we go.

Today, January 18th 2009, I weigh 218.5 lbs and have a body fat percentage of 26%

I am making the choice to get myself down to 195 lbs and 17% body fat.

I’m not putting a timeline on this, I’m just going to be consistent with my choices and let it take as long as it takes.  I’m in no hurry.

My plan? I plan to use all of the different approaches with which I’ve had some success in the past.

• Choosing alkalizing foods
• Proper hydration
• Walking
• Push-ups (I’m using the hundredpushups.com program)
• Sit-ups (I’m using the twohundredsitups.com program)
• AND YOU!  I’m going to be reporting on my progress via Twitter and Facebook, so if you would like to see how I’m doing and offer encouragement – then please follow me on Twitter or become my friend on Facebook.

One of the reasons that I can speak so confidently about the Power of Mortality™ is that I live it on a daily basis.  I want to bring this same resolve to the topic of choosing the life you want. Making a choice is the first step. Acting on it is where things really start to happen!

“And what happened was, um.. life took over… life took over.  I started getting overwhelmed.”

Excuse me – what was that?

I had to back up and listen to it again, but that’s what she said.

I was dumbfounded.  How can Oprah get overwhelmed because “life took over”?

So I kept watching the video clip.  She spoke about insomnia and being exhausted.  “…many a day I didn’t want to come into work. I didn’t want to come into work because I’m so tired.  Too much work, not enough play, not enough time to come down, not enough time to really relax.”

While she is talking, we see footage of Oprah running around back stage, being tended to by hair and makeup people, in meetings, and in the studio for her radio program.  At one point she enters the frame of the camera while walking down a hall.  She has a coat draped over her shoulder, looks at the camera and says: “Done with that – on to my next job.”

At that point, Oprah lost me completely.

Here is one of the wealthiest women in the world talking about being overwhelmed because of ‘work’??  I can only imagine how that comment would have sounded to someone who is working two (or more) jobs in order to try to pay the rent and put food on the table.  Wikipedia indicates that Oprah’s 2008 salary was $385 million dollars.

I found myself inadvertently yelling at the computer: “Oprah! Have you completely lost your mind??” Who is making you go to work each day? Who controls your schedule? You’re Oprah Winfrey for godsake! You can do whatever you want!”

Clearly Oprah was making a HUGE mistake.

Then I calmed down and decided to do some more research. Now, I believe that the video clip was edited to be a sensationalistic teaser, designed to get you to tune in to the Oprah show to hear more.  After reading an article on her website, titled “How Did I Let This Happen Again?“, I discovered that she doesn’t blame “life taking over” for her weight gain.  She has a thyroid condition.  But she also doesn’t blame the weight gain entirely on the thyroid condition.

She writes:

What I’ve learned this year is that my weight issue isn’t about eating less or working out harder, or even about a malfunctioning thyroid. It’s about my life being out of balance, with too much work and not enough play, not enough time to calm down. I let the well run dry.

When I stop and ask myself, “What am I really hungry for?” the answer is always “I’m hungry for balance, I’m hungry to do something other than work.” If you look at your overscheduled routine and realize, like I did, that you’re just going and going and that your work and obligations have become a substitute for life, then you have no one else to blame. Only you can take the reins back.

That’s what I’m doing. These days I’ve put myself back on my own priority list; I try to do at least one hour of exercise five or six days a week. As I work out, eat healthfully, and reorder my life so there’s time to replenish my energy, I continue to do the spiritual and emotional work to conquer this battle once and for all.

If I could offer a word of advice to Oprah, it would be this: “It’s all a choice.“  Especially for someone as powerful as Oprah.  She can choose how much or how little she wants to work.  She can choose to utilize the army of personal trainers, nutritionists, doctors and specialists that she has available to her.  Or she can choose not to.

For her sake, and for the sake of everyone who is looking to her for an example, I sincerely hope that Oprah realizes the power of choosing the life you want.  This is a choice that you make moment by moment, day by day.

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Note: Writing this article has moved me to put my words into action.  Read Choose, Then Act!

1. Dying is not a choice.
2. Everything else is. Everything!

Allow me to explain.

If you were born, then you will die.  That’s the rule.  There is no getting around it, it’s a package deal.  You don’t get to choose not to die.  You also don’t get to choose when, where or how you are going to die.  Everyone dies. Men and women, rich and poor, sinners and saints.  One day, our time on this earth will come to an end.  If you would like some help accepting this, I suggest you start with my Mortality Manifesto.

But here’s the good news! Although dying is not a choice, everything else in our lives IS a choice.  Absolutely everything!

I’m sure that some of you are mentally arguing with me right now.
“It wasn’t my choice to lose my job!”
“It wasn’t my choice to be in a car accident!”
“It wasn’t my choice to be raped!”
“It wasn’t my choice to…”

Even when it seems like we don’t have a choice – we do.  (sshhh! Come closer – I’m about to tell you the meaning of life!)  Ready?? …There is no meaning of life!  At least not until we give it one.  Life just is.  Things just are. People do what people do.  Stuff happens.  It’s you and I that are constantly assigning meanings to everything.  A snowstorm is just a snowstorm – it doesn’t mean anything.  If you are a commuter facing snarled traffic on a Friday drive home you will assign one meaning to that snowstorm.  If I am the owner of a ski resort who is now anticipating a booming weekend, I will assign a completely different meaning to that snowstorm.  Same snow, different meaning.  If you’re still not convinced that the quality of our lives is dictated by the meanings we choose to assign to everything, then you need to read (or re-read) Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl.

Once we realize that we have complete control over the meanings we assign to things, we gain a tremendous amount of power.  In fact, if we really take this seriously, we can tap into an unlimited supply of power and energy.  Just for a moment, I want you to imagine living your life without ever feeling like you are a victim of other people or external circumstances.  What would that life look like and how different would it be from the one you’re experiencing right now?

(Seriously – take a moment and do this.  Don’t worry, you can go back to your regular life in two minutes – or never – if that’s what you choose.)

If you aren’t happy with the results you’ve been getting so far, or even if you are happy but know that there is always room for more, NOW is the time to make the change!  All it takes is a choice.

Isn’t it time that you begin to choose the life you want?

If you are interested in how to do this, then stay tuned!  That is precisely what I am going to be writing and speaking about in the upcoming weeks and months. Also, please forward this to friends and let them in on the secret – it applies to their lives too!

(PS: Getting back to Point #1, the ‘death thing’, for a moment… although dying is not a choice, the meaning we choose to assign to it absolutely is!  Even more exciting: once you accept and begin to really use Point #2 on a consistent daily basis, you won’t even care about Point #1 anymore!)

The site is packed with all sorts of other useful information on dealing with changes – from career and finances to family and relationships. Check it out!

If you find that my message offers a useful point of view, please take a moment to share it with anyone who might also benefit from hearing / reading it.

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(By the way… if you have only listened to the audio version and are wondering what is so special about April 15, 1994. Wonder no longer!)

Well, I just came across a very simple and visually appealing version of that idea. Bonus: This version doesn’t mention that unfortunate “death” part.

Converse (the shoe company) has a very simple illustration of how powerful the present moment can be.  I’m quite ambivalent about their shoes, but I LOVE this message!  What are you waiting for? Go check it out!

WARNING:  If you see a link at the bottom for something called KISSINGWITHROSS.COM – don’t click it!  You’ve been warned and I cannot be held responsible for any mental anguish that results from ignoring my warning.

Last week I had my annual check-up with the cardiology team.  These are not your standard cardiologists – these doctors are specially trained in dealing with adults with congenital heart conditions. (Public Service Announcement: If you, or someone you love, was born with any sort of heart defect [as 1 in 100 babies are], then you need to be sure that you are being followed by a congenital heart specialist – not just a regular cardiologist.  For more information contact the CCHA in Canada or the ACHA in the US)

I have been having annual checkups since I was born (except for the seven or eight years after receiving my ‘expiry date’ – you may have read about those years in my book).  One of the diagnostic tests that they almost always use during these checkups is called an echocardiogram.  It’s the same technology that they use on pregnant women to check the progress of the baby and it gives you a fascinating look inside the human body.

So I have had the privilege of being able to watch my own heart as it does its thing.  I’m guessing that I’ve probably seen this “live and in person” about 31 times. And I have a powerful video clip of my own heart that I keep on my BlackBerry (Ask me to see it the next time you meet me).  For me, watching my heart is like visiting with a wise old friend.

Now my heart bears little resemblance to yours.  (If you haven’t already listened to my heart – you can do that here.) All my life I have had cardiologists tell me that if someone were to intentionally build a heart the way mine is built – it would never function.  But mine does!  I know that I am a walking miracle!

And that humbling fact was brought home to me once again last week as I lay on my side watching my heart beating away – doing things that it’s not supposed to do.

As I reflected on this miracle in action, I felt a renewed sense of purpose and drive sweep over me.  “I’ve been given a tremendous gift here!  Who am I to squander it by living an ‘ordinary’ life?”

Isn’t that a powerful realization?

But you don’t have to have a freakish heart to tap into that same feeling. Your own body, whether young or old, healthy or not, is a miracle of nature!  You have the ability to turn food and drink into muscles and bones.  You pull oxygen out of the air and turn it into thoughts and dreams.  And all without any effort on your part!

You’re a miracle in action too!  So please tell me you’re not planning on living an ordinary life!  No matter what sort of live you’ve been living up to this point – it can all change now!  With the very next beat of your heart, you can decide to live your life on purpose.  And if you ever get discouraged or doubtful… put two fingers on your wrist, feel the driving rhythm of your pulse and tap into that motivation from within!

ENJOY NOW!

The article made me sad as I read about the debate over how to best indicate a patient’s wishes about their treatment choices. Some are uncomfortable with the idea of putting DNR (for Do Not Resuscitate) on someone’s wrist and feel that somehow “a white dove carrying an olive branch” (Seriously! I’m not making that up!) or “the initials A.N.D., for ‘allow natural death’,” are a better idea.  They even go so far as to say that it is a “gentler alternative”.  What??  A gentler alternative? Really?

I never cease to be puzzled and amused at how our Western culture tries to sanitize the concept of mortality and death. The very word “death” is a taboo.  When I was writing my first book, I wanted to use “death” in the title.  EVERYONE told me that I would be crazy to do this.

“You’d be crazy to do that!” they said. (Really, they did) “It will alienate people!  No one will look at a book with ‘death’ in the title! They’ll see that word and run the other way!”

I’m well aware of how our society reacts to this unfortunate fact of life (which is ultimately why I chose to call my book “What’s Your Expiry Date? Embrace Your Mortality – Live With Vitality“), but my question is: WHY?

Everyone dies.  No exceptions.  Saying that is not morbid, it’s just a fact of life.  We don’t get carried away by a white dove with an olive branch – our bodies just stop working.  So why do we run from the word?  Why do we hide from the concept?  Does ignoring and denying the inevitable really add to the quality of our lives? I want to hear from you on this one in the comments section.

This morning I was looking at some amazing photos that Jose’ has on Facebook.  As soon as I saw them, I realized that I had to write a blog post about them, so I dropped him a note to ask if I could use them. He wrote back and told me that I was welcome to use the photos.  He also told me that there was a story behind them – and what a story it is!  So today, I will bring you Jose’s story.  Then, in my next blog entry,  I will give you the post that I was originally inspired to write when I saw these fantastic photos.

Here are the photos (Jose’ is the one in the white t-shirt) – Click on each one to see the larger photo):

And here’s the story behind them, as told by Jose’:

I was scared of heights. A couple of years ago the German girlfriend I had at the time took me sight seeing on top of Cologne cathedral. Going up the never ending stairs did not make me realize how high we were going as we had no windows around us. When we got to the top and realized the height, I simply froze, got hold of the wall behind me and was shaking with panic. Well it took her and some other tourist around 45 minutes to get me down. I went down the steps facing the wall and my girlfriend talking me about silly stuff to deviate my frightening thoughts.

Last year I started working on myself and getting my life in shape. One of the things I had to work on was the fear of heights. I was going to be in Hawaii for a conference regarding personal development and I decided to take action to defeat this fear of heights. I booked a skydive 5 weeks before the jump and from that day I created a mind movie where I saw myself boarding the plane with a smile and no fear and also watched myself jump off the aircraft with a big smile and screaming with joy having the time of my life. I went through this mind movie at least once a day till the jump and while doing so I said aloud to myself “I am going to skydive and am going to have fun”. Well, I jumped and it was a live performance of my mind movie and did not feel any fear for not even a fraction of a second. Now I know that with the right mind-set I can achieve what I want.

Do I have some powerful friends, or what?

Now I want you to consider doing three simple things:

1. Use the comments section below to tell us how you’ve overcome fears.

2. Forward this to any of your friends who are having difficulty facing their fears.

3. Join Jose’ and I on Facebook!

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I’ve just come across something incredibly powerful and I wanted to share it with you.  I’m not sure if it will have the same impact on you as it did on me, but I feel strongly that I need to share this new perspective with you.

I have just started going through an audio program called Abundance For Life – Trance Breaking, Wealth Making.  It’s done by Paul R. Scheele from Learning Strategies Corporation. This morning I was listening to the introductory CD while having breakfast.  In the CD, Paul talks about his background and about how he came to work in the field of personal development.  He relates the story of working for the summer, at the age of 19, in a hypnotherapy clinic. After the summer, he was asked to take over the therapist’s client load because she was ill.  As he became more and more adept at hypnosis techniques, he made a very powerful realization.  Here’s the gist of the story:

Paul was giving a demonstration  of hypnotic trances to a church youth group.  Essentially these are induced states of mind (“keep your eyes on the swinging watch…your eyelids are getting heavy”) that bypass our critical faculties and allow suggestions (“you no longer enjoy smoking”) to be more readily accepted by the mind.  In this particular demonstration he was giving,  he worked with a young man and suggested to him that his foot was glued to the floor.  Sure enough, the young man COULD NOT move his foot!  Next, Paul suggested to the boy that he had forgotten his own name and would not be able to recall it when asked.  As you can guess, the boy was completely unable to recall his name. When both of these trance demonstrations worked, Paul had a powerful realization:

Now at that moment, instead of thinking how powerful I was as a hypnotist, I immediately felt illuminated as if I was standing in a shaft of light from heaven.  I thought: “Oh my gosh! We’re doing this to ourselves all the time! We’re taking perfectly reasonable abilities – perfectly reasonable resources of mind and throwing them out, simply by accepting the suggestion that ‘I cannot’.”  Everyday normal human resources, human capabilities, vaporize – become impossible to access – simply by focusing the mind in a way that makes us believe that they are not available.

Isn’t that a powerful perspective?  Today, I want you to listen carefully to your own self-talk.  See if you can notice how many times you limit yourself.  Notice how often you glue your own feet to the floor.  Who’s really holding you back?

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If you are interested in learning more about the Abundance for Life program, you can visit Learning Strategies Corporation’s website here.

I couldn’t have said it better myself!!

Take a long, hard look at those blobs.  Count them out and see where you are right now.

And then remember that 936 is just the statistical norm.  It’s not a number that you are guaranteed, owed or otherwise entitled to.

To further put this in perspective… last month Dave Freeman, the man who co-wrote 100 Things To Do Before You Die, died at the age of 47.  That, my friends, is only 564 blobs.

If you recognize yourself in it – ask yourself these two questions:

1. What is the character doing that I need to STOP doing?

2. What isn’t the character doing that I need to START doing?

Intentions are a great first step, but we need to constantly and consistently support them with certain beliefs, emotions and actions.

That is, until they actually invent the great machine from the video clip!

Everyone also understands that this is much easier said than done. Millions of people tuned in to see Oprah and Eckhart Tolle discuss the concepts of living a life that is focused in the moment. So are we to assume that those millions of people have now discovered their life’s purpose and are living in the moment? Not likely.

Life gets in the way. Sometimes it feels as though we are trying to swim upstream against the powerful currents of time.

In past posts, I’ve offered numerous tricks for staying anchored against the currents of time. Often they are inspired by “normal” yet unusual things such as a zen roadmap for your life that I saw in Japan.

Today I received another piece of wisdom from the Universe.  Musicians David Byrne and Brian Eno released a preview MP3 from a new album that they are doing together. The title of the album?

Everything That Happens Will Happen Today.

Think about that one for a while and you’ll find that it really helps anchor you in the moment!

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I’m actively working on Phase II of my life’s mission. This involves a new book, a new series of keynotes and some web-based programs and audio programs. But the part I’m most excited about is an intensive weekend retreat/seminar that I’m developing which has grown out of my current workshops.

If you would like a sneak-peek and would be interested in providing feedback – please let me know and I’ll put you on the list of “insiders”.  Just send me an e-mail with “Fearless Focus” in the subject line.  My address is patrick {at} mathieu {dot} com.

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Companies are often looking for meaningful and impactful items to use for promotional or marketing purposes. I’m sure you’ve been on the receiving end of these kind of items. All too often these sorts of giveaways miss the mark because they are something that you look at once and toss away. Or they may be something useful, like a pen or mug, but still miss the mark because there is no emotional investment in the item and therefore no transfer of that emotional attachment to the company or organization that gave it to you.

On the other hand, a small, (7.1 x 5.1 x 0.6 inches – 6.4 oz) attractive, hardcover book is not something that is likely to be thrown away. In fact, a hardcover book is something likely to be passed from person to person, thus easily having an exponential impact. And if the message of my book is something that resonates with the message of the company or group, imagine the emotional attachment and goodwill that will naturally be engendered by receiving this sort of promotional or marketing item! (I know that Deepak Chopra certainly appreciated the copy I gave him when we had a chance to sit down and discuss The Power of Mortality™)

So here’s my pitch:

• If you know of a company or a group that is looking for a promotional item that carries real impact…
• If you know of a company or a group whose message is complimentary to The Power of Mortality™, or whose products or services would be a natural fit with the message behind The Power of Mortality™ (just off the top of my head, I can think of how easily this would fit with industries such as health care, financial services, insurance and direct sales)…
• If you know of a company or a group that would like to be associated with a book by an author who was a guest for a full hour on Oprah & Friends…
• If you know of a company or a group like this… then I want to hear from you!

Depending on the quantity ordered and the desired budget, we can put together packages whereby the company/group would receive:

• an attractive name-plate on the inside cover
• 1/2 of the back cover for their message
• a star-burst or top banner on the front cover

We can also add options that could include:

• a keynote presentation (or a number of them) for the company/group
• a workshop (or a number of them) for their company
• custom-written articles for their newsletter, corporate blog or website

Anyone interested in opening a discussion about this should contact my manager Allan at:
allan [at] mathieu [dot] com.

I’m sure that you’ve heard his story, watched him on Oprah, seen a video of his lecture or read his book.

I applaud Randy for two things:

1. When told that he had six months to live, Randy chose to focus on the LIVING part and not the dying part!  So many of us make the opposite choice.

2. Randy took a very selfless approach to the precious time that he had left and generously used his experience to help others examine their own lives and priorities.

And that’s what the Power of Mortality™ is all about!

Thanks Randy!

My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends.

If you haven’t already seen this video from Matt Harding, you owe it to yourself to watch it.

Here’s the YouTube link just in case the embedded video isn’t working properly.It’s an amazing accomplishment and I dare you not to be moved by some of the scenes. The concept is so simple, and yet the result is so profound! What’s even more amazing is the story of what pushed Matt to begin this globe-trotting, silly dancing odyssey. I won’t tell you what his career was before doing this video or why he decided to turn his back on that world, (I’ll let you read that for yourself on his Wikipedia entry) but I will say this:

The world needs more people who are willing to put principles first,
fearlessly dance their own dance
and who are willing to choose the life they want!

I just happened across a web page called “The Adventures of Accordion Guy in the Twenty-First Century”. On the “ABOUT” page I found this:

Back in high school, after reading Space-Time and Beyond for the umpteenth time and drinking one too many zombies with my friend Henry, we came up with a theory:

In the infinite set of universes, there had to exist a particular universe in which the events in our lives were being watched as a TV show.

We then made a solemn vow to live the kind of life that got high ratings.

This is the continuation of that story.

What a fantastic way to look at life! I love it!

So… here are my questions to you:
1. If your life were a TV show, what real TV show would it resemble? (Or would it be unlike anything on TV today?)

2. If you had to have a famous actor playing the role of you – who would it be?

and here’s the big one…

3. In a universe of infinite TV programs to choose from – would you choose to watch a show about the life you are currently living? (If not, maybe it’s time to choose the life you want.)

Let’s hear your answers in the comments section.

I know that a lot of people like to complain about Mondays.

But before you complain, either about Mondays or anything else for that matter, take a few minutes to watch this video.

Now, what was it that you were about to complain about?

I encourage you to watch this fantastic, throught-provoking presentation (it’s only 18 minutes and 44 seconds long). If the embedded video below isn’t behaving properly, then you can find it at this link.

Then I encourage you to read (and listen to the podcast) about my own experience and the lessons I learned from my stroke in 2006.

If all of that leaves you feeling left out (hehe!) you should read my post titled: How to have a STROKE. It gives you all of the insight and none of the hospital food! How’s that for a deal?

As soon as everything has been finalized I will make an announcement.

Thanks for your patience!

I recently got a message from one of my subscribers.  She was concerned about the silence and asked if I was still OK.  The answer is “Yes, I’m OK – thanks for asking!“.  There have been some big changes underway with me lately.

I’ll share these changes with everyone on April 15th.  Why April 15th?  Because it is a very significant day.  Do you know why? Give me your guesses in the “comments” section.  The first person to give the correct answer will receive a free copy of my 365 Personal Expiry Dates. (Hint: it has nothing to do with taxes)

If you want to find out how/what I’m doing/thinking in-between blog entries, you can follow me on Twitter.  My latest “tweet” (as they’re called) appears on the right side of my blog under the heading The Latest From Patrick…  If you use Twitter, you can follow me here.

So… what is the significance of April 15th?

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As most of you know, I developed the Power of Mortality™ in 1994. For a number of years it was simply my own personal philosophy. It was how I lived my life and it worked wonderfully!

Then in 2003 I realized that my story and my philosophy can help others with their own personal life challenges. I decided to use my considerable talents as a communicator to help people implement the Power of Mortality™ to live a life that is fearless, focused and free from regrets.

• I began giving keynote speeches.
• I started an e-mail newsletter that now reaches people in 30 countries around the globe.
• I began conducting workshops.
• I wrote a book.
• I began doing television and radio interviews, including Oprah & Friends.
• I was featured in newspapers and magazines.
• I started a podcast.
• I started a blog.
• … and I have many other plans in the works!

It has been a very rewarding five years and I have met many fantastic people who have shared with me how they have applied the Power of Mortality™ in their own lives. Their stories have always touched me deeply.

You will notice though, that all of my efforts so far have been on the level of one-to-many. Countless people over the years have asked me if I can work directly with them. They wanted to supercharge their experience with the Power of Mortality™ by having a one-to-one relationship with me. So far, I have not offered that type of service because I felt that I lacked the proper tools and framework for dealing with someone on a one-on-one basis.

However, I am thrilled to announce that I have just finished my training with the Certified Coaches Federation and I’m now a Certified Coach Practitioner! This training has given me the skills and techniques that I wanted to have in place before I started working with people on a one-on-one basis.

So for those of you who’ve read my book, attended one of my presentations or simply just been following my blog or podcast – I want you to take a moment to consider the following: Possibly something about the Power of Mortality™, or a certain aspect of my personal story, has touched something deep inside of you. You might have noticed that it has awakened long forgotten dreams and goals. Or perhaps you are now experiencing something in your life with which you would like help. If you want to achieve a certain goal or overcome a limitation I would be honored to offer my services. Together we can use the Power of Mortality™ to create a life for you that is fearless, focused and free from regrets!

You may want to consider booking a free 30-minute initial session with me. After we’ve had an opportunity to complete that call, you will have a solid understanding of the possibilities that are available to once you hire me as your coach. Here is how to reach me:

Phone: +1-519-763-6245
E-mail: patrick@mathieu.com
SkypeID: barcodeguy

This is the next level in the evolution of my mission to use the Power of Mortality™ to help transform the world! I invite you to come and play with me on this delicious journey called life!

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But don’t worry, on February 15th, we can all go back to normal!

I wouldn’t call myself jaded, but I’m always perplexed by our society’s need to set aside a special day to honor things that we should be constantly honoring.

• Do you only express your love on February 14th?
• Do you only cherish your marriage on your anniversary?
• Do you only celebrate someone’s life on their birthday?
• Do you only honor your mother on Mother’s Day? Your father on Father’s Day?

When we set aside these days, it can lead us to take things for granted the other 364 days of the year. This sort of thinking is exactly why so many people end up a funerals saying: “If only I had told them how much they meant to me.”

Years ago I wrote an article where I suggested that we replace the cliché “Carpe Diem” (Seize the day) with “Celebre Diem” or Celebrate the Day!

So go ahead and buy the chocolates and flowers tomorrow. But if you really want to show them how much they mean to you… do it next week too!

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“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
- Zig Ziglar

I’m not a doctor, but I have two prescriptions for those of you who like to remain freshly bathed in motivation.

FIRST

Symptoms: Lack of focus. Early morning lethargy. Feelings of “what difference will today make in the big picture?”.

Prescription: 365 Daily Expiry Dates.

Dosage: One per day for 365 days.

IMPORTANT DIRECTIONS: Once you have read the daily note, you MUST throw it out. No matter how much you like the message, you can’t keep it. This is to remind you that life comes at you one day at a time and you aren’t able to save up the good days and throw out the bad days.

SECOND

Symptoms: A need for audio motivation. Desire for variety of motivational information and material. Wish to help others at the same time as helping oneself.

Prescription: 52 Motivational Interviews.

Dosage: One per week for 52 weeks.

KNOWN SIDE EFFECTS: An overall feeling of self-satisfaction and happiness that comes from the knowledge that a portion of the proceeds of this program are being donated to fight Alzheimer’s Disease.

Now, take both of these and call me in the morning!

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I was listening to my iPod and I happened to choose the album Welcome To Wherever You Are from the group INXS. As I listened to it, I remembered a very surreal moment in my life. I was in southern Japan, wandering by myself through the city of Miyazaki. It was 1994 and I was 24 years old. I had no idea where I was going, but I was enjoying the fantastic sites and sounds of this new place. (Perhaps it’s different now, but at that time Miyazaki had very few “foreign” tourists, so it was not nearly as “westernized” as Tokyo.)

As I strolled the streets, I came to one of the many bridges that cross the river which cuts through the city. At the side of the bridge, there was a large sign that included a map of the surrounding area. I went to the map, hoping that it would shed some light on my whereabouts. Everything on the sign was in Japanese, except for a red “x” that appeared on a road just beside the river. There was an arrow pointing to the “x” with the English words: “The Place Where You Are Right Now“. (I really wish I had taken a picture of that map!)

I broke out laughing because as I looked down at myself, I realized that I was wearing a t-shirt that I had bought at an INXS concert back home in Montreal. The t-shirt had the album cover for “Welcome To Wherever You Are”. So here I was in the middle of a strange city on the other side of the globe from my home, wondering where I was – and the answer came back loud and clear.

THIS is the place where you are right now and welcome to wherever you are!

As I listened to that album yesterday, the Universe reminded me of that day and of the fact that the best way out of any situation is to be at peace with where you are right now. Once you can make yourself welcome in that place (no matter how unpleasant or stressful) you have some power with which to choose where to go next.

So the solution to my mini-crisis is to simply get very present to where I am now and not worry about the future. Hmmm…. that sounds like very familiar advice… where have I heard that before? Well, I guess we all need reminding from time to time.

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Oh. In case you’re wondering how I got “un-lost”…. after continuing to study the map, I managed to decipher that there was a koban or “police box” a few blocks away. When I was done with my exploring and ready to head back to the place I was staying, I made my way to the koban to ask directions to the correct bus stop.  The officer stationed at the koban didn’t speak English, so he phoned someone else (to this day, I have no idea who he called) and I told the person on the phone which bus I was looking for. That person had no idea where to find it, but they translated my request back to the police officer, who gave the directions to the person on the phone, who then gave them to me! What an amazing trip! It was a lot of fun! (I’d post some photos from my trip, but no one would believe that they are me.  I had a full beard and a big head of hair!)

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I’ve just recently come to a terrifying realization.

I…. am an adult.

And not only am I an adult, but I have kids! Kids and a mortgage!

HOW DID THIS HAPPEN??

I wasn’t supposed to live past the age of 30. That was the deal. But here I am, nearly 38 and I’m now “in charge” of things!

I have two small children who are looking to me for answers! (This morning my 5 year-old son asked me about marriage!!!) I have a wife who is looking to me for help in paying the mortgage, taxes and all of the bills!

I wasn’t prepared for this responsibility. I’m not prepared for this responsibility!

When I was a kid, I had an excellent coping mechanism that served me very well. I realized early on that all I had to do was simply seek the approval of the adults in charge. This meant my parents and teachers. I wasn’t too worried about the approval of my peers. After all, they were just kids too. But adults in positions of authority – well… they held my future in their hands. So I learned how to get their approval. My internal thought-process went like this: “As long as they approve of me, I’m on the right track, I’m doing the right things and if all else fails, the adults in charge will take care of me.”

Well, in the last week, my internal thoughts have been: “Well now that I’m the adult in charge, who’s going to take care of me?? Who’s going to tell me if I’m on the right track? Who’s going to approve of me? How the hell did this happen?”

This is scary stuff folks! How do you people handle it? (I’m talking to those of you who are going through life with expectations of a “normal” lifespan.)

Please leave your advice and suggestions in the comments section below!

Today, Tim wrote a serious blog post on the topic of depression and suicide. (You need to read it!)

Tim isn’t a doctor. He’s not a psychologist. But he has a blog with a very large audience and he has decided to step outside of his usual subject matter to make a very important comment on a very important topic. He says:

Statistically, out of the millions of people who visit this blog, a fair number will consider or attempt suicide. I want to know that I at least made an effort to prevent such terrible loss.

Tim’s post has reminded me of two important things:

• We all have a duty to watch out for one another
• You don’t need to be an expert to offer assistance – especially if that assistance is to help someone find an expert.

It would have been so easy for Tim to simply continue using his blog to regale us with his globe-trotting, time-saving tales of his fantastic life and how we too can have that life. But today, Tim decided to step out of that comfort zone and give something back to the community.

Thanks for the lesson Tim!

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In South Korea, a company called Korea Life Consulting will let you attend your own funeral!

That’s right – you read your last will and testament then climb into a casket.  The good folks from Korea Life Consulting then nail the lid shut, sprinkle dirt on the lid and play funeral music!  After 15 minutes, they pry open the lid and you emerge – reborn!

One of the participants had to say this:

“I felt really, really scared inside the coffin and also thought a lot about my mom,” said Lee Hye-jung, a 23-year-old woman studying engineering. “I’ll live differently from now on so as not to have any regrets about my life.”

POWERFUL STUFF!

So what do you think?  Should I incorporate some caskets into my next workshop or weekend seminar?

Read the story for yourself.

How much more successful would the year be if you had laser focus and were confident that you were focusing on what is most important to you?

I will be holding a “Fearless Focus” workshop in Toronto on Tuesday, January 29th. In order to accomodate different schedules, and to allow as many people as possible to participate, I am offering two sessions – one in the afternoon (1pm-4pm) and one in the evening (6pm-9pm).

To keep the sessions as interactive as possible, I am limiting attendance to 24 people per session. So REGISTER NOW!

For more information and to register, visit the Fearless Focus page.

(Would you like to see a workshop held in your city? Contact me and let’s get one set up!) 

Something like:

• Whitewater rafting
• Hiking in the Himalayas
• Driving a race car
• Shooting under 100 for a round of golf

Or maybe it’s something like making pottery or working with stained-glass.

You see what they are doing and you say to yourself: “Man! I’d love to try that one day!” But of course one day isn’t a day on the calendar – so you never get around to trying it.

I recently met a very interesting young man named Frank who is involved in parkour. If you don’t know what parkour is (or even if you do) you need to watch this amazing three minute video clip. (Warning: your heart will be beating faster by the time you finish it and you if your boss catches you watching it at work, you will have the urge to vault over your cubicle wall to escape.)

I’ve always wanted to try parkour, but I’m wise enough to know that you need some basic training before you start (not to mention a level of physical conditioning that I just don’t have at the moment). Now that I know Frank, I can live vicariously thorough him and that might be just the motivation I need to start getting in shape to try out some of these moves.What about you? What things would you love to try? Are they things that you can jump right into, or do you need to work up to them? If you can jump right in – what’s stopping you? If you need to work up to them – what are you doing to start the process? A good place to start would be to become acquainted with someone who is already doing what you’d like to do.

For 2008, why not vow to surround yourself with “successful” people? And by that, I mean people who are doing what you’d like to do.

Now I just need to ask Frank if he’s ever done THIS – because MAN-O-MAN would I ever love to fly like that!

The article is at I Will Change Your Life . com where my friend Peter recently asked me to write a guest post. (Thanks again Peter!)

The answer to the question goes against logic and common sense, but it didn’t surprise me a bit! After all, I’ve known the answer to that question for thirteen years.

I encourage you to read the article for yourself and please feel free to leave comments below.

By the way: here are some other links to articles about the same research

Death-Defying Thoughts  – findcounselling.com

How our minds counter the fear of eventual death – anxietyinsights.info

Faced With Death, Our Minds Turn To Happier Thoughts – sciencedaily.com

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What would your life look like if you were FEARLESS, FOCUSED and FREE FROM REGRETS?  It’s time to Revolutionize Your Life!

FEAR – I want you to think about fear for a moment.

• What has fear cost you over the years?
  • In terms of money
  • In terms of wasted opportunity
  • In terms of erosion to your self-confidence and self-worth
  • In terms of relationships
  • In terms of your health

• How many of your day-to-day decisions are made based on fear?

• How many of your fears have been with you so long, that you no longer recognize them as fear? Here’s a clue – do you ever find yourself using these words to explain why you didn’t act on something:
  • Responsible
  • Levelheaded
  • Mature
  • Reasonable
  • Prudent
  • Safe

How much impact does fear have on your life today?

REGRET – Now I want you to think about regret for a moment.

• If I were to give you a pen and piece of paper right now and ask you to write down any regrets you have, would you:
  • Stare blankly at the paper for five minutes and then hand it back to me – empty
  • Write for a few minutes and then hand it back to me with a shake of your head and a sigh
  • Ask me for more paper, a more comfortable chair and a box of tissue – and then tell me to come back tomorrow – with food

How much impact does regret have on your life today?

FOCUS – Now I want you to think about focus for a moment.

• On a scale of 1 – 10, how focused would you say you are?
  • How would your spouse rate your focus
  • How would your children rate your focus
  • How would your parents rate your focus
  • How would your coworkers rate your focus
  • How would your friends rate your focus
• How much of your life is spent focused on the past (regrets) or focused nervously on the future (fears)?
• How much sleep have you lost wondering if you are on the right path or making the right decisions?

How focused is your life today?

Now – here’s the really big question – How happy are you with how your life has turned out so far?

Let me ask that another way:

If you were just informed that today was your last day on earth, how ready would you be to accept that what you have, is all you are going to get?

Is it time to revolutionize your life?

I can help you! We can do it together – through the Power of Mortality™

ENJOY NOW!

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I still find it hard to believe that one year ago today, I had a stroke.

For the benefit of those who don’t know the background, let me start at the beginning and give you the highlights

• I was born with a very complicated heart condition and my parents were told that I wouldn’t live to see my first birthday. Since the doctors didn’t understand why my heart was working in the first place – they opted not to touch it.
• I lived a relatively “normal” childhood with no surgeries, no medicines and no hospitalization. It was a miracle!
• At the age of 18, I met a cardiologist who told me that my life was more than half over! His exact words were: “We hope you live to be 30.“
• Six long, torturous, depression and anger filled, years later – I finally came to terms with this prognosis. I accepted my own mortality and as soon as I did I realized that it was the most liberating and empowering thing I had ever done! I coined the term “Power of Mortality™” to describe this new way of living.
• I got married at the age of 30.
• We had our first child when I was 32.
• When I was 33, I realized that my mission in life is to help others by sharing my story and my concept of the Power of Mortality™, so I began my career as a professional speaker.
• We had our second child when I was 35.
• At the age of 35 I wrote my first book, “What’s Your Expiry Date? Embrace Your Mortality – Live With Vitality“
• And then at the age of 36 I had a stroke.

By then, I had been living the Power of Mortality™ for twelve years. I had been speaking about it, writing about it and teaching others about it for three years. And at the age of 36, I was given a chance to walk my talk.

As I have previously written in a post titled This Is NOT A Test, (which I wrote a year ago from my hospital bed), I walked into my office that morning and had no idea what my computer was used for. Next, my right arm went numb and the vision in my right eye went blurry. At that point, I realized that I was having a stroke.

And then the most remarkable thing happened! Rather than panic, rather than loose my cool, rather than be gripped by fear, I decided to sit down for a second. I sat in my office chair and asked myself: “Well, I wonder if today is the day?”

My mental dialog continued: “And if I am moments from death, how do I feel about my life at this moment? Am I ready to go?”

I ran a quick mental check:

• I just finished a good breakfast with my wife and children.
• I kissed them goodbye and told them I loved them as they left the house.
• My mother, brother and friends all know that I love them.
• I don’t need forgiveness from anyone that hasn’t already forgiven me.
• I don’t need to forgive anyone that I haven’t already forgiven.
• And I owe the bank lots of money!

So the answer is ‘YES’ I’m ready to go!

But I didn’t die. I didn’t but I know that I will. One of these days today will be ‘the day’. And thanks to the Power of Mortality™, I know that I will be just as ready to go then as I was a year ago!

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The Power of Mortality™ is not about death – it’s about life!

• It’s about appreciating how truly precious and important your life is by contrasting it with your inevitable death.
• It’s about using that contrast to help you get clear about what you want out of life.
• And, it’s about using these newfound insights to make choices and take actions that move you in the direction of your dreams.

So how does that apply to your day-to-day life?

Well, once you’ve mastered the Power of Mortality™, the focus is no longer on your mortality, but on how you choose to live your life each day. The mantra is:

Fearless! Focused! Free From Regrets!

How powerful is that?

• Imagine how different your life would be if you were fearless!
• Imagine having no regrets about past actions, decisions or events!
• Imagine living your life each day with a clear focus!

You’d be unstoppable, wouldn’t you?

• The Power of Mortality™ will change the way you view your job or career.
• It will change the way you view your family life.
• It will change the way you view your relationships.

In short – the Power of Mortality™ will change YOU!

And I think that’s precisely why the Power of Mortality™ terrifies some people. They just aren’t ready to have their life shaken up. They’ve grown comfortable with living their life “by default”. But the reality of the situation is that one day, whether they are ready or not, their life will be shaken up. That’s just how it works.

I also think that’s why the Power of Mortality™ excites so many more people. These people realize the fact that facing their death – and their life – on their own terms, puts the control and power back into their own hands!

Which will you choose?
Will you try to control death? Or will you take control of your life?

You can get started with the Morality Manifesto.

I feel that there is a link between Osama Bin Laden, bird flu and gang violence. I have done a number of radio interviews where I’ve discussed this point. In fact, the subject even came up during my hour on Oprah & Friends Radio. I maintain that all of these things have two things in common: FEAR and CONTROL. Inherently we fear anything we cannot control.

That’s why terrorism “works”. I don’t believe that terrorists use roadside bombs simply to kill people (there are far more efficient ways to do that). Terrorists use roadside bombs to instill uncertainty and fear. We fear the actions of terrorists precisely because: a) we can’t predict what they will do next; and b) we can’t control their actions – there is just no way to have a contingency for every possibility.

It’s the same with the threats of bird flu and gang violence – we can’t control them and we fear that we will be affected by them.

But at the root of it all, is our fear of death.

We can’t control the fact that we are going to die. There is nothing we can do to change the fact that one day our bodies will stop working. And for people in the Western world – that lack of control terrifies us. So we externalize the fear. We obsess about the things we feel we can control. For some it is their health. For others it is their safety. And increasingly for the USA, it is the idea of “national security”.

But how big is the threat of terrorism? In his second blog post, Levitt says: “The actual cost of … terrorism in terms of human lives is relatively small, compared to other causes of death like motor-vehicle crashes, heart attacks, homicide, and suicide. It is the fear that imposes the real cost.“

And that’s where the Power of Mortality™ comes in.

Once you’ve embraced your mortality and accepted the fact that you have a limited and uncertain amount of time on this earth – the fear melts away. After all – what are you going to fear if you no longer fear death? Oh – and as an added bonus, embracing your mortality allows you to live a life filled with vitality! I tell people that I can help them live lives that are “FEARLESS, FOCUSED and FREE FROM REGRETS”

Interested? Start with the Mortality Manifesto.

Technically, it was a Transient Ischemic Attack or TIA. As I lay in the hospital for a week following the event, I realized that, thanks to the Power of Mortality™, there was nothing – not one thing – in my life that I needed to change! How many people could say that when faced with their own death?

Thankfully, I made a full recovery from the TIA and suffered no deficits or after effects. Two weeks ago, when I first wrote about this in “Mindful Moment“, one of my subscribers suggested that TIA could also stand for “Teaching In Action”. I really liked that idea! So, in the spirit of using acronyms, I would like to present a short lesson on “How to have a STROKE“.

S – STOP!
You can do it. You can take some time for yourself. Let the rest of the world take care of itself for a while. You owe yourself this time. Besides, if you don’t stop once in a while, life has a habit of stopping you.

T – Take stock of your life. Who have you become? Who did you intend to be? How do you feel about that? Be honest with yourself.

R – Realize that you are not owed any specific amount of time on this earth. Likewise, you need to realize that your loved ones are not guaranteed any specific amount of time.

O – Open yourself up and listen. You’re listening for the small voice inside of you. It may take a few minutes or it may take a few days, but you will hear it. This voice comes from your heart of hearts – listen to what it has to say about your life. The process of tapping into the Power of Mortality™ isn’t something you can “think” your way through. It must be felt at the core of your being. The problem is that most of us are very out of touch with the core of our being because we are too busy letting life live us. We never intend for it to happen that way – it just does.

K – Keep in mind the principles of the Mortality Manifesto. Commit to aligning your life with your dreams. Commit to paying attention to your thoughts, words and actions. Realize that everything in your life happens because of your thoughts, words and actions and it is up to you to ensure that these three things are moving you in the direction of your dreams. Free yourself from fear and regret by keeping your focus on the present moment.

E – Embrace your life by embracing your mortality. EVERYDAY!

Let me finish by saying that I sincerely hope that this is the only STROKE that you ever have to experience. However, if you approach this exercise with a sincere heart and actually work though the process I know that you’ll be ready for whatever life brings your way in the future.

Just as I was wrapping up my series of Mindful Moments on the topic of Living the Power of Mortality™, I was given the opportunity to put my beliefs to the ultimate test!
Last Tuesday, October 10th, I suffered a stroke. It was 08:30 in the morning and I was alone in my home office when it hit.

It was like any other morning. I had breakfast with my family and saw them off as they left for daycare, school and work. After I finished my espresso I sat down to start up my computer, but all I could do was sit and stare at the login screen. It was as though I had never seen the screen before in my life. I had no idea what to do. But at the same time, a voice in my head said ‘You do this every day! Come on!’ Then my right arm went numb and I had trouble with the vision in my right eye. At that moment I realized that I was having a stroke. (If YOU don’t know the warning signs of a stroke, do yourself a favor and learn them.)

Thankfully, I didn’t panic. Remembering something I had once heard, I went to the bathroom and took three aspirin to help reduce the impact of the stroke. I looked at myself in the mirror and made all sorts of funny faces to ensure that both sides of my face were still working. Seeing no signs of paralysis, I tried to talk out loud. Let me tell you – unless you’ve been through this, you can’t imagine how scary it is to discover that some part of your brain is on strike and you can’t even string together a simple sentence!

As I write this, it’s now Monday afternoon (October 16th) and I’ve been in the hospital since Tuesday. Thankfully, I have no paralysis or lingering effects from the stroke. I’ve felt perfectly normal since Tuesday afternoon. The doctors say I had a TIA (transient ischemic attack). I’m still in the hospital so they can monitor my response to the anticoagulation drug that I’m now going to be taking. (In case you are wondering.. typing with an IV drip in your hand is not an experience that I’d recommend trying.) I’ve been told that I should be discharged later today or tomorrow.
I was talking with a friend yesterday who asked me how my teachings held up to real life testing. She thought that perhaps my enthusiasm for embracing mortality might have changed because of the stroke.

I’ve now had seven days to reflect on the events of last Tuesday. Seven days to think about my situation. I’m pleased to report that the Power of Mortality™ works – even in the face of a stroke! Yes, I was scared when my brain wasn’t responding properly, but I wasn’t afraid!

Perhaps most significantly though, over the course of the last seven days of reflection, I have not uncovered a single thing about my life that I feel needs to change. How many people can say that when faced with their death?

What about YOU?

Will you be able to say that when you are finally faced with your death?

Would you like to be able to?

Start with the Mortality Manifesto.

ENJOY NOW!

Last Friday, I received the following e-mail from a Mindful Moment subscriber (she kindly agreed to let me reprint it here):

Patrick:
Reading your Mindful Moment comments this Thanksgiving brought forward a very important message often overlooked. At first I was puzzled that you chose this for Thanksgiving. Soon it became clear.The following morning at 5:15 a.m. my oldest daughter Jamie was in a severe motor vehicle accident and was transferred to a trauma center in Hamilton with a fractured pelvis and back as well as a small bleed on her brain.

How quickly our normal routine lives can change. A knock at the door and a police officer and the beginning of something you never imagined. As my husband and I drove home from the hospital tonight and did our usual venting of exactly how blessed and grateful we feel, how incredibly lucky Jamie had been, and how wonderfully supportive our family, friends and entire community has been, the importance of your message shines through.

I hope all my daughters have known they are loved unconditionally but there will never be a time that I will hesitate to say it.

God bless you and promise to give your son a HUGE hug from his “friend” Debbie.

-Debbie

Friends, I want each of you to promise me, and promise Debbie, that as soon as the goose bumps on your arms go down, you’ll run to your loved ones, or at the very least pick up the phone and call them to let them know just how much they mean to you! Promise?

Now I want you to imagine that this is the last time you would ever see that person again.

• Imagine how long you would take to say goodbye.
• What would you say?
• What would you make absolutely sure they know?

Our need to say goodbye is tremendously strong. The book Final Gifts by two hospice nurses, Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, is filled with very touching stories illustrating dying people’s need for closure.

Brazilian author Paulo Coelho recently shared the following story:

During the atrocities that accompanied the Bolshevik revolution, thousands of people were arbitrarily arrested, beaten, stripped and executed with a shot in the back of the head. According to one witness: “at the most tragic moment in our lives we have an absolute need to not feel alone. So most of the victims asked to say goodbye – and since there was nobody nearby, they embraced and said farewell to their executioners.”

Life is full of uncertainties. We never know when we will be saying goodbye for the last time. Now I’m not advocating that you say your final goodbyes each and every time you leave for work or head to the store for milk.

What I am suggesting is that from time to time we need to check in with ourselves to ensure that those whom we love know how much they mean to us.

I will consider my life a success if I can go to my grave knowing that there is no one to whom I didn’t get the chance to say the words “I’m sorry”, “I forgive you”, or “I love you”.

Is there anything you are leaving unsaid?